Power
Throuple
Before There Was a PowerThrouple
Powerthrouple didn’t begin as a brand. It began as our life. What started as an unexpected relationship eventually became something we chose to share openly—a story about love, friendship, sexuality, growth, and what can happen when we stop trying to make our lives fit someone else’s definition of what they’re supposed to look like.
We were high school sweethearts who built a life around faith, family, marriage, and the belief that there was a right way to do all of it. For most of our lives, we weren’t trying to challenge anything. We were trying very hard to be good at the life we had been taught to live.
But life has a way of asking questions our beliefs can’t always answer.
For Trent and me, those questions began changing the way we understood marriage, sexuality, and even ourselves. Slowly, we started giving ourselves permission to be curious—to ask what was actually true for us instead of simply accepting what we had always been told was supposed to be true.
That curiosity eventually led us into consensual non-monogamy. There wasn’t some grand plan. We weren’t looking for another partner, and we certainly weren’t trying to create a throuple. We were simply exploring together, learning about ourselves, and discovering that love, commitment, and sexuality could be more expansive than we had once imagined.
And then we met Nita.
When Three Became Us
Meeting Nita wasn’t part of a plan. She came into our lives first as a friend—someone we connected with, laughed with, and genuinely cared about.
Over time, that friendship became something more. Not all at once. Not because any of us set out to create a three-person relationship. It grew slowly, through conversations, experiences, vulnerability, and a willingness to keep asking ourselves what felt true.
Eventually, the three of us chose to build a life together.
We called ourselves Powerthrouple.
For several years, that became our life—three people navigating love, friendship, family, sexuality, jealousy, growth, mistakes, healing, and all the ordinary and extraordinary things that come with trying to build a relationship outside the usual script.
It was beautiful.
It was complicated.
And it changed all three of us.
The Story People Saw
Eventually, our private life became a public story.
We were given the opportunity to share part of our relationship on This Is Poly. Suddenly, something we had spent years living and figuring out in real time was being captured by cameras and eventually condensed into episodes for other people to watch, interpret, celebrate, criticize, and form opinions about.
I’m grateful we said yes.
And I also learned something important: a television show can tell a story, but it can never hold the whole story.
There were years of conversations, mistakes, tenderness, conflict, laughter, growth, ruptures, repairs, and ordinary life that could never fit on a screen.
What viewers saw was real. But it was a window into our lives—not the entirety of them.
And like every real relationship, ours continued to change after the cameras stopped rolling.
What Happened After the Cameras Stopped
When filming ended, our story didn’t.
Life kept moving, and so did we.
Over time, the relationship between the three of us changed. Nita eventually moved out, and for a season, our relationship came to an end.It wasn’t a simple ending, and it wasn’t the story of one person being right and another being wrong. There was hurt. There was healing. There were things each of us needed to understand about ourselves outside of the relationship we had built together.
After nearly a year apart, something unexpected happened: we found our way back to one another.
Today, Nita is part of our lives again—but differently. We are together, but we no longer live together. What we have now has more room for individuality, freedom, and the lessons all three of us learned along the way.
Our story didn’t return to what it was.
It became something new.
Where We Are Now
Today, our lives look different than they did when Powerthrouple began.
Trent and I are still together, still learning, still growing, and still questioning the assumptions we once believed relationships had to fit inside.
Nita is part of our lives again, but our relationship no longer depends on all three of us occupying the same space or playing the same role. We have learned that loving someone and allowing them freedom are not opposites.
We also know ourselves differently now.
What began as an exploration of relationships became something much larger—an exploration of identity, autonomy, honesty, belonging, and what it means to build a life that actually feels like our own.
We don’t have all the answers.
We’re still living the questions.
And maybe that’s the most honest version of our story.
More Than a Relationship
Powerthrouple was never really about three people proving that one kind of relationship was better than another.
It was about giving ourselves permission to discover what was true for us.
Along the way, we learned that love does not remove the need for boundaries. Freedom does not eliminate responsibility. Honesty can be uncomfortable. Growth can change the very relationships that helped create it.
And sometimes loving people means allowing a relationship to become something different than what you once imagined.
That is the part of our story I care most about sharing.
Not that everyone should live like us.
But that everyone deserves the freedom to ask what an honest, meaningful life looks like for them—and the courage to listen to their own answer.